You simply can’t shield yourself from every possible hurt because you will be automatically shielding yourself from truly living too. Same as we don’t ever like everyone we meet, right?
In order to beat this fear you need to understand it.
These past emotions get triggered by situations in the present, and we then find ourselves afraid of feeling these same things again. It is the fear that you will not be accepted for who you are, what you believe in, and how you act. If you’re not comfortable and proud of who you are, your identity tends to be tied up in what other people think of you. Never having learned healthy ways to deal with conflict or disagreements. Having a physical condition that makes you feel different from everyone else. Lack of personal accomplishments (when comparing oneself to other people). Some steps you can take to undo your fear of rejection are: 1. You could then suggest an alternative that could work for both of you. Think about what the consequences would be by using these healthier methods. Would you be happier not catering to other peoples’ needs all the time and having your own needs met?
This fear can result in several behavioral patterns, including lack of assertiveness, a confusion as to your true identity, enabling other people in their own bad behavior, game playing, and being dishonest with yourself. You are then constantly molding your behavior to fit into what you think other people want to see. The bottom line is, we teach people how to treat us.
Anxiety about receiving I just met with a single, dating client who is discovering a special kind of relational anxiety.
You see an attractive man/woman across the room, you’re drawn to them.In order to work on low self-esteem, it’s important to begin to identify where it comes from too. Sometimes our fear of rejection causes us to surround ourselves with people who use others as doormats.Some factors that can contribute to lack of self esteem are: 1. It’s important to have friends who don’t take you for granted and who love who we are inside, but even more importantly, WE have to love who we are inside and let it shine so others can actually see it.Probably the number one reason people don’t put themselves out there more to find potential partners is fear of rejection.You want a date, you want a relationship – but you can’t stand the thought of getting hurt in the process of finding them. That’s the only magical formula that exists in life, in any human achievement. You can rely on luck to get you what you want, but that leaves you with nothing but hope.
Let me start by saying that I have no problem with online dating, chatting, swiping, liking, or any variation thereof.